EJ says he is a man trying to learn how to experience joy, shifting from control to stewardship, from managing everything to actually living. It is disarming to hear someone be that honest about wanting more than a life that just runs smoothly.
Tarah and EJ talk about raising kids who can actually handle their emotions, and how it starts with naming your own out loud. They tell their children when they are triggered and show them the repair. The honesty is the whole lesson.
Tarah describes learning that safety does not have to come from the outside. She can be in the middle of a spiraling, worst-case thought and still meet herself with, I am okay, I am safe. It is a quiet kind of freedom.
EJ and Tarah talk about non-attachment, and how loosening your grip on someone can actually deepen the love instead of threatening it. I spent a long time believing the opposite, so this one stuck with me.
Tarah describes being a serial monogamist, always the one who left first, until EJ refused to be left behind. She talks about the strange moment she realized she actually wanted the shared future she kept bracing to lose.
Tarah is honest about something a lot of people carry quietly. Becoming a mother of four swallowed her sense of self and her desire, and finding her way back to feeling like a person again took real work. This one will feel familiar to a lot of parents.
They get into what it actually takes to make someone feel safe enough to show you all of themselves, including the parts they are afraid of. EJ talks about accepting Tarah fully, and how that kind of acceptance is where real safety begins.
Kate is a psychic medium, and her story about growing up differently challenged everything I thought I knew about intuition. We sit down to talk about what it means to be a highly sensitive child. It is not just about what you see, but how you move through the world…
Tarah and EJ talk about what happens when love stops being something you manage or negotiate and becomes something you give freely. No pressure, no keeping score. Just two people choosing each other without conditions.
Tarah talks about how understanding what her body had been holding reorganized everything. The anxiety she used to judge herself for, the way certain things never felt safe. Once she saw where it came from, she could meet herself with compassion instead.
EJ describes standing in the kitchen and telling Tarah that if their marriage did not survive, that was okay, because more than anything he wanted her happy. It was the last thing he wanted to say and the beginning of releasing control. He says it did not end his love.…
EJ says this about Tarah, and it reframes their whole marriage. He does not want to be one more person who takes advantage of her kindness. It is one of the more tender things I have heard a partner say out loud.
Brad and I sit with one of the big ones. What actually makes a life worthwhile, once you set aside the stories you inherited and the narratives everyone handed you. No tidy answer here, just an honest conversation about figuring it out for yourself.
Tarah talks about how a supervised session surfaced something her body had been carrying since she was a little girl, something she might have lived her whole life never knowing. She is holding the hardest thing that happened to her and somehow calling it a gift, because knowing finally let…
Brad shares a national survey he ran where eighty percent of people admitted something stops them from showing up for someone who is struggling, and the top reason was being afraid of saying the wrong thing. He talks about how music let him offer comfort when words could not.
Two therapists went looking to understand a new therapy and found their own life shift instead. This is an honest conversation about recovered memory, emotional safety in marriage, releasing control, and healing childhood trauma together as a couple. Tarah and EJ Kerwin help couples for a living through their counseling…
A short, bright moment near the start. One of them describes coming through something hard and waking up to an unexpected sense of relief, like the ground had quietly shifted underneath them. It sets the tone for everything that follows.
You know the version of yourself you built to get through. The one who keeps the peace, reads the room, holds it together so no one else has to worry. Maybe you have wondered who you would be if you ever set that version down. This week I sat with…
Brad and I get into the difference between fixing and supporting, especially with the person you love most. Sometimes the most helpful thing is not a solution. It is listening, letting someone know you hear how hard it is, and resisting the urge to make it better too fast.
That is Brad's line, and he means it. He talks about how unprocessed pain can turn into something that harms everyone around it, and how the same pain, tended carefully, can become a force that heals. It is one of the more hopeful things I have heard anyone say about…
Brad has lived with a deep fear of death his whole life, and he stopped waiting for it to disappear. He talks about learning to work with his own brain, finding joy alongside the fear rather than after it, and why happiness turned out to be something you build in…
Brad and I talk about how our lives can look nothing alike on the surface and still run on the same handful of feelings. Fear, love, grief, hope. It is the thing I keep finding on this show, that the details are different but the ache underneath is something we…
What began with Brad playing for one dying friend grew into Reimagine, a nonprofit that has helped more than 250,000 people face loss and turn it into something they can use. He talks about building tools and gathering rooms so people do not have to sit alone in the hardest…
Brad tells the story of writing a song for Sarah while she was sick, and what it felt like to watch music turn something unbearable into something with a little light in it. Sometimes the only thing you can offer someone is a song, and it turns out that is…
